On Coming Out Organically

There are now about a half dozen people who I have told about my blog. This morning I realized that I am coming out with my blog in much the same way I’ve been going through the process of coming out about being gay (or whatever language you prefer). Doing it wholesale seems weird. I’m finding I prefer a much more gradual, organic approach. One by one. As it comes up in conversation. Sending out a mass email declaring, “Look at me!!” isn’t really my style. Just like making some grand, wholesale declaration of homosexuality isn’t either. And even then, it’s not like you can make the grand declaration and be done. You will continue to meet people who won’t know. I wonder if that’s part of the reason that some people seem to become gayer after coming out, so as to avoid having to keep telling people. Just let them know right up front with a full on gay assault.

Anyway, as I was saying, I much prefer a more organic approach. I tell friends as it comes up in conversation. There have been some friends that I’ve gone out of my way to tell, but those were friends who I wanted to hear the news from me. (That sentence structure seems weird, but I’m not sure how to word it.) I do it this way because it feels honest to me. I’m not trying to hide anything, but I also feel like its just one part of me and not the first thing people need to know about me. Plus, I like to let people get to know and like me and THEN tell them. Then they are trapped. They already know that they like me, so it’s not like they can just write me off as a crazy homosexual. They have to do some reconciling in their heads. That might sound a little bit manipulative, but I don’t think it is. It’s honest for me. As I said, it’s not the first thing people need to know about me, but if it comes up, I’ll toss it out there for them to chew on. Like delicious dried organic mangos. Mmmmm.